All about anger
What is anger? / What causes anger?
Anger is a normal emotion and feeling angry is ok. Not all anger is unhealthy and it is a natural defence mechanism to prevent you from being dominated or manipulated by others. Many people are fearful of anger and think of anger as a destructive emotion. However, when anger is expressed well it can actually be a motivating and positive emotion.
However, the expression of anger is often what causes problems, particularly if it is expressed or acted out in an abusive or violent way. If your anger is causing you to be abusive or violent, or causing you problems at work or in your personal relationships with friends or family members, you need to look at ways to express your anger in a healthy way.
It can be helpful to read other people’s stories of their struggle with managing anger and how they have overcome it:
What causes anger?
Anger is your response to some type of grievance, whether real or perceived. It is often the result of having your desires and expectations unfulfilled and/or from feelings of frustration about not having things the way you would like them to be.
Your past experiences, behaviour that you have learned from others, genetic predispositions, low frustration tolerance and lack of problem solving ability are also linked to how quickly you feel anger. If you are prone to getting angry you tend to have a certain perception of how the world around you should be and when it doesn’t meet your expectations, you become angry.
Anger has been described as a pressure cooker that we can keep down for a certain amount of time before it explodes. It may seem like it is something that you cannot control. However, as anger is not caused by an external event, but is rather your internal perceptions and responses to these perceptions, you can control anger.
Help with managing anger
It’s good to know that if you are struggling with managing your anger, help is available. Counselling is widely considered the most effective way to learn skills to manage your anger.
Did you realise research has shown that the relationship between you and your counsellor is one of the most important elements for a successful outcome? How do you know if the counsellor you find will be the best fit for you?
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Click on the links below to find out more information on anger management:
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